Most likely, if you were actually ever a teenager (which definitely you had been, or nonetheless were), you-know-what it is like when someone more, specifically an adult, tells you how to proceed. You believe guess what happens you are undertaking nevertheless do your very own thing anyway.
That's how I see people that are rebelling or intoxicating their particular schedules for some reason. Some behave like teenagers believing that they know precisely what they're undertaking plus don't require anyone's help to change.
If you should be a moms and dad, often you must intervene. But often people simply want to know that you are around on their behalf as an open, non-judgmental ear, making sure that whenever circumstances get bad, they've got someone to promote their problems with.
When this happens, and some one trusts you sufficient to communicate the their own discomfort, that is whenever their particular self-empowerment will start.